Managing Emotions
On Top of Things instead of at the Mercy of Feelings
Speed is of the essence
Your
emotional response is faster than your rational one; that is why it is so
important to make sure you know how to deal with it and use your emotions to
your own advantage.
Sounds reasonable,
doesn’t it?
But in reality,
things can be quite tricky, precisely because of this speed and the ensuing
emotional turmoil which can lead to behaviour that is far from what you might have
intended.
Embarrassing at best and a real nuisance, or worse, when those responses cause harm, to
ourselves and to those around us.
This is why
many people fear disagreeable emotions and choose to ignore them - which is
understandable because when you do not know how to deal with something, then
maybe it is best not to do anything. While behaving like this may even be wise in the
short run, in the long run we cannot afford this kind of attitude, nor
the loss of energy we risk trying to keep things at bay.
The wisdom
of your emotions – understand and make use of their message
Welcome
unwelcome emotions as they are expert counsellors and faithful
companions. They ask us important questions like: “what’s wrong – what can
and what must I do?”
If you learn how to interpret these messages and make use of them, you can be
more confident in your actions and decisions. They will not be affected by your
current mood but pay attention to your emotional feedback.
This is especially
important when your pros and cons get the better of you – since the longer the list,
the more difficult, or even impossible, the final decision.
Understanding and
managing your emotions helps you in this situation as well as when it comes to
identifying your real goals, boosting your self-worth and confidence, improving
your communication and enhancing your relationships.
The Good News
Anyone can
learn to manage their emotions and thus improve their lives – even, or perhaps especially, people with CEN
(childhood emotional neglect).
I am happy to be there for you and show you how!
Just give me a call: